Honoring Grief This Holiday Season

Finding Comfort, Support, and Strategies to Cope

Grief can feel especially isolating during the holidays.

The holiday season, often depicted as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration, can feel especially heavy for those who are grieving. While others may be wrapping gifts, sharing meals, and recounting warm memories, you might find yourself struggling with an overwhelming sense of loss, longing, or loneliness. If this resonates with you, please know you are not alone—and it’s perfectly okay to ask for help.

It’s Okay to Ask for Help

Grief is a deeply personal journey, and the holidays can intensify feelings of sadness, anxiety, or isolation. Sometimes, the pressure to “be cheerful” or “keep traditions alive” can feel unbearable. If you’re finding it hard to cope, reaching out for support is a sign of strength—not weakness. Whether you turn to friends, family, a grief coach, or a support group, asking for help is a healthy and courageous step. Remember, you don’t have to walk this path alone.

Why the Holidays Can Be Especially Challenging

During the holidays, reminders of your loved one may be everywhere—from empty seats at the dinner table to cherished traditions that now feel bittersweet. Social gatherings, festive music, and well-meaning invitations can amplify your grief and highlight the absence you feel. It’s normal to experience a mix of emotions, ranging from sadness and anger to moments of unexpected joy. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up, without judgment.

Coping Strategies for the Holidays

·       Set Boundaries: Give yourself permission to decline invitations or step away from events that feel overwhelming. It’s okay to say “no” or to leave early if you need to.

·       Create New Traditions: If old traditions are too painful, consider starting new ones. Light a candle in memory of your loved one, share stories about them, or volunteer for a cause they cared about.

·       Honor Your Loved One: Find ways to include your loved one in your celebrations. Display their photo, cook their favorite dish, or play a song that reminds you of them.

·       Practice Self-Care: Make time for activities that nurture you—whether it’s taking a walk, journaling, meditating, or simply allowing yourself to rest. Listen to your body and emotional needs.

·       Reach Out for Support: Consider joining a grief support group, attending a holiday memorial service, or talking with a grief coach or end-of-life doula. Sharing your feelings with others who understand can be comforting.

·       Accept Your Emotions: Allow yourself to experience whatever emotions arise. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and it’s okay to have moments of happiness or laughter, too.

Tips for Navigating Events and Gatherings

·       Plan Ahead: Decide in advance which events you feel comfortable attending and how long you’ll stay.

·       Bring a Friend: If possible, bring someone supportive with you for emotional backup.

·       Have an Exit Strategy: Arrange your own transportation or let your host know you may need to leave early.

·       Take Breaks: Step outside or find a quiet space if you need a moment to collect yourself.

You Are Not Alone

The holiday season can be a complex and difficult time when you’re grieving, but support is available, and it’s more than okay to reach out. Give yourself permission to honor your feelings and your loved one in ways that feel right for you. With compassion for yourself and the support of others, you can navigate this season at your own pace and in your own way.

If you or someone you know is struggling with grief, consider connecting with a grief coach/peer support, or support group in your area. You deserve understanding, comfort, and help on this journey.  Embracing the Journey offers referrals to community resources as well as grief support to individuals and groups.  Click here to schedule a complimentary visit to discuss your options.